My first post on this blog recounted the story of a man who believed he had traveled to Paradise and therefore he found this actual home, family and town to be more delightful than he used to think they were. The story reminds me that our thoughts and feelings have a lot to do with our appreciation--or not--of our circumstances. What seems crowded and unpleasant with one mindset becomes fun, warm and loving with another mindset.
I'm thinking about my mindset a year later. The important aspects of my life haven't changed much: same home, same wonderful work with clients I care about, same special horse and riding, same great big dog and two fun cats, same friends and family.
In one imporatnt way though I changed my mindset. I decided to work on my remaining riding anxiety with EMDR. In a way the experience is like that of the man who thought he arrived in Paradise. I worked on what was in my head, and now the exact same activities that caused me so much anxiety are not bothering me at all. No matter how much willpower I generated beforehand, I couldn't get rid of the anxiety.
When I got some help though I was able to "turn my shoes around" and now I ride with relaxation and joy.
It was never a matter of riding skill. I have had that just fine for years. I think many people--maybe even you--have skills but don't achieve because your mindset needs an adjustment. Whether you adjust your mindset on your own or you work with someone, isn't it time to turn your shoes around and walk to Paradise?